To help or not to help?
If you know a friend's ship is sinking and he/she is oblivious to it, do you try to help and if so, how?? I've already tried the subtle approach to no avail which leaves being brutally honest. With brutal honesty comes injured feelings and bruised egos. It's also been my experience if someone doesn't want to hear something, you could jump up and down, screaming and yelling in their face and they still won't listen to what you are saying. I guess maybe the real question is, to get involved or not to get involved, since the situation only tangentially relates to me.
In an unrelated matter, I recently stuck my neck out and expressed concerns about a friend's upcoming marriage. This was basically done in a joking manner although ultimately I wasn't joking. I spent several days feeling as though I'd overstepped my bounds but finally decided that if someone asked me if I wanted to get married and I said "I do and I don't" I honestly hope I would be questioned about my decision. I spoke my piece (peace?) and I'll do my best to refrain from I told you so, should my concerns come true.
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If someone is sinking they have usually set it up that way. Who knows what their motivation is, or even if it is the wrong thing to do. It may be their only way out of another situation. Bailing them out may not be a favor at all!
Thank you anonymous (whoever you are?!). When I think about what you said, it could definitely apply to the situation I referred to. I fully believe you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom!
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